Humor will not be tolerated!! -Portia

84898 I couldn't have said it better than Luciana without being really mean about the use of shadeshirts. True story: I saw a picture with a girl wearing a white cotton shade shirt under a strapless low back wedding dress. She might as well have tied a puff paint sweatshirt around her waist, done h...

Marduk wrote:How can anyone be that certain that they would NEVER EVER want to try something with a partner? I don't get it.

When neither person wants to do something, it's probably not going to happen. And that's ok.

I am a firm believer in the, hey, what sexual activities are you into/are off the table talk before marriage, regardless of orientation. Some straight people are kinky, some bi people aren't, &c. yep. everyone should have that talk. some people think it's inappropriate but I think it's just as ...

I just really enjoyed this question and all the answers: http://theboard.byu.edu/questions/84522/ It's great when questions get a ton of writers to respond. I'd probably feel the same as Vienna in that if I was already in to the guy, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. It's just not one of those things h...

I too have become frustrated by the "have it all" idea but for completely non-church related reasons. It's not just a mormon woman issue so I just omit that from my thinking process. Plus, I think we mormons freak out too much about how and when to family. Yes, I used it as a verb. And I f...

Even though I agree with the concept, I still think the Political Compass quiz is pretty biased and unhelpful. No one thinks they want to be "authoritatian," and all the questions that lean that way sound slanted even to someone who might agree with them. Yes. It's also confusing because ...

http://theboard.byu.edu/questions/84223/ Actually, yes I do think it affects how people view depression. I think it makes people see it as less of a spectrum and more of one thing. Growing up I had friends who romanticized depression. They thought it was cool and necessary to being a great writer an...

http://theboard.byu.edu/questions/83779/ Major kudos for tackling such a sensitive topic and making the advice practical but vague enough for its audience. Along the same topic, I've heard that exercise can affect one's libido, so that might be something for him to try. I loved her answer. Putting ...

If you don't mind my asking, where was this? This sounds like my freakin' dream ward. My home ward was full of unambitious losers of both sexes (has since gentrified, but the quality of activities still seems very "meh"). I don't mind since I don't live there anymore. Austin Texas, Barton...

There are so many things. But it comes down to understanding that respect between the sexes should be mutual. Really absorbing this might help some girls realize the pedestal is a lie. It's such a ridiculous thing to say they should teach because it seems so very obvious to me. It wouldn't solve eve...

Portia, I'm hoping you didn't misunderstand me. I don't think it's ok for her to put priesthood holders on some kind of gross pedestal, but she probably has. blechhh.

Maybe she is saying "priesthood holders" because she expects more from them? While she probably should (in a perfect world..HA) be able to expect that, it's just not helpful to think that way. Being a "priesthood holder" doesn't make you a perfectly nice person any more than the ...

Love: HIIT Circuits - they're fast and highly effective and mostly all I do except "rest" days when I... Yoga -I feel great after Pilates/Barre - it's nice for days I need a change of pace and gets all the muscles I would otherwise miss Meh: Swimming - the chlorine will ruin my hair and dr...

If you have custody of your child, than your child needs to be in a family ward and you need to attend the family ward as well. This was emphasized more heavily in one of the 30-45 YSA wards in salt lake that I visited once. It also had about 600 members, 6 relief societies and priesthood meetings,...

We had a lesson like that. One girl talked about how (growing up) her family wouldn't go to a church activity unless all the children in her family could participate. i have no idea what that meant but i'm assuming it meant if the younger kids were too little to participate fully or something. My mo...

For baby showers, if I don't receive a thank you before the baby is born, I just assume it won't happen. haha. I think baby showers are silly. <ducks> They can also be really awkward. This "game" actually happened at a baby shower I went to: Everyone had a string tied around their waist l...

I had my husband write the ones to people only he knew so they'd be more personal. But we both signed our names. They were sent out within 1-1.5 months of getting married. There were a handful I missed in the shuffle and sent a few months after. Growing up, my mom bought me those fill-in-the-blank t...

I am a strong believer in thank-you notes, and if I don't get one from you, I make a mental note not to give you expensive gifts in the future. It just seems so...rude to me. I do the same thing. And I don't feel bad about it. My "favorite" instance of not receiving a thank you note was f...

Hahaha, I hate thank you notes. I hate getting them, I hate giving them, and they feel incredibly repetitive unless the gift arrived through the mail. I still write them, though, but only because I don't want people to judge me. They are about 111% more important when the gift is sent via mail. 4 o...

i'm late to the game, but:
http://theboard.byu.edu/questions/83333/

I applaud autosurf for not giving the reader the "you're just snobby and emily post is dead" treatment. I'm team thank you notes.