A thought I've been having on this topic, recently, relates to my own experiences. My parents tried several approaches, all concurrently: corporal punishment (spanking, pepper on the tongue, &c.), timeouts, extra chores, removal of privileges (grounding), parental disappointment, &c. I never came to fear my parents from any of the methods (spanking included)—I just came to fear the punishment. My thought is this: every disciplinary measure will produce unintended consequences. It teaches the child that since activity x is used for punishment, activity x is a bad thing. Punish with timeouts? You teach the child to abhor boredom and seek constant entertainment. Punish with extra chores? You teach the child to abhor work. At least with spanking you teach the child to abhor pain, which is less detrimental to the child's future marriage and employment than ADD and/or laziness. It could just be in my nature, but I sometimes suspect that my constant need to watch movies, play video games, surf the internet, or read and my distaste for household chores are at least in part a consequence of my parents' disciplinary actions.
Some people (Pa Grape included, unfortunately) claim that spanking children teaches them to hit. But that's just silly. They figure it out on their own, kind of like the hominids on 2001: A Space Odyssey. My niece isn't a year old, yet, and she already hits when she's mad. Her parents don't spank her; she figured it independently. True, when you spank the child you teach them that hitting is (sometimes) okay. And they may be confused for a while that you, the parent, get to hit, but they do not. But I don't know anyone who still struggles with that contradiction/'hypocrisy'. Shocker, but children are actually smart enough to eventually figure that one out. And even without spanking in the picture, there are plenty of other things that parents do themselves but which they forbid their children to do.
Pa Grape's claim that
is untenable. No disciplinary method necessarily teaches a child anything. I'd assert that Pa Grape would've played with fire again at the age of 13 regardless of what discipline his father had doled out. But once children are old enough to understand that there are consequences to their actions, then any of the disciplinary actions can be used to regulate behavior. Spanking, timeouts, extra chores, removal of privileges, parental disappointment, &c., didn't inherently teach me that what I'd done was bad. It taught me that there were negative repercussions to my actions—even if they were initially artificial. As I matured, those disciplinary actions contributed to my improved behavior, but none of them actually taught me to be good. Learning the Gospel and coming to perceive others as equal in value and sentiment to myself are what actually made me a better person. But discipline was a stepping stone to that understanding (see Kohlberg's stages of moral development)....it doesn't necessarily teach them anything.
Also, timeouts, extra chores, removal of privileges, parental disappointment, &c., can be inflicted in anger and be just as perplexing to the child as getting spanked in anger. It isn't the spank that sends the mixed signal, it's the anger. And the anger is independent of the method of discipline. Thus, self-control has to be exercised when issuing any form of discipline.
Viper asserted that
This is true...as long as you ignore the other half of the research. This review concludes that corporal punishment is effective unless overused. This American Academy of Pediatrics conference review was inconclusive, except to say that parents should be counseled to "avoid those [practices] that are...dangerous, ineffective, or abusive." And this excellent article reviews the entire professional and lay controversy. There are certainly plenty of arguments against spanking, both peer-reviewed and in the blogosphere. I'm not claiming that there's no evidence that spanking is ineffective or detrimental, just that it's not as cut-and-dried as Viper tried to make it sound.Spanking has been shown to be quite ineffective as a teaching tool.
So, I conclude with my opening statement: I can't give a ringing endorsement of spanking. Nor can I give an absolute nix on it, either. I think, ultimately, it has to be catered to each child, individually, in consultation with your spouse (if you have one) and the Lord.