Moderating a Facebook group
Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2012 12:36 pm
Last year I made a Facebook group for members of my community (it's a gated community thing except the gates never close). Since then lots of people have joined and have been using it as a noticeboard (my intent).
There was an incident last week where a poster asked if anyone could take in her dog, and then she explained that she needed to get rid of it because of her snooty neighbors. Heated discussion ensued with people expressing their opinions about dogs in our neighborhood and the poster's landlady who used to live there chiding her for hatin' on her (her own former) neighbors. Later I realized that I should have deleted the post when I first saw it and asked the intial poster to re-post without the neighbor negativity. I have since added a rule to the group's description that, basically, you shouldn't talk smack about your neighbor in the group.
I'm reluctant to delete anything and until now my stance has been kind of hands-off. But I discovered that one of the neighbors being talked about was someone I knew and liked, and it made me angry that she felt bullied. I'm thinking of implementing a three-strikes program, where I delete and message users who use the group for passive-aggressive notes, and stressing that being in the community group is a privilege and not a right (it's a closed group; I have the power to delete posts and delete and remove the poster from the group). I want to be intolerant of cyberbullying/passive aggression in my group. On the other hand, I don't want to be "that person" who appears to be a gigantic tightwad. Thoughts?
There was an incident last week where a poster asked if anyone could take in her dog, and then she explained that she needed to get rid of it because of her snooty neighbors. Heated discussion ensued with people expressing their opinions about dogs in our neighborhood and the poster's landlady who used to live there chiding her for hatin' on her (her own former) neighbors. Later I realized that I should have deleted the post when I first saw it and asked the intial poster to re-post without the neighbor negativity. I have since added a rule to the group's description that, basically, you shouldn't talk smack about your neighbor in the group.
I'm reluctant to delete anything and until now my stance has been kind of hands-off. But I discovered that one of the neighbors being talked about was someone I knew and liked, and it made me angry that she felt bullied. I'm thinking of implementing a three-strikes program, where I delete and message users who use the group for passive-aggressive notes, and stressing that being in the community group is a privilege and not a right (it's a closed group; I have the power to delete posts and delete and remove the poster from the group). I want to be intolerant of cyberbullying/passive aggression in my group. On the other hand, I don't want to be "that person" who appears to be a gigantic tightwad. Thoughts?