Humor will not be tolerated!! -Portia

My mom was a single mother (though not a divorcée) and seemed to have better luck dating someone who was not LDS then he converted. That was the late 80s though, don't know how things have changed on that front and I'm certainly not married, divorced, or a parent.

My soon-to-be-husband is divorced. We had been friends for about six weeks before we started officially dating and he told me about his divorce very soon after we decided to date exclusively, and I would recommend the same approach to others. I think it's best to tell about potential deal-breakers when you know the person well enough to trust that they'll handle the information maturely, but early enough that you don't get too attached to them if they decide it's a definite deal-breaker for them. After all, if someone's not going to want to date you just because you're divorced, wouldn't you rather know sooner than later?

Amity wrote:My soon-to-be-husband is divorced. We had been friends for about six weeks before we started officially dating and he told me about his divorce very soon after we decided to date exclusively, and I would recommend the same approach to others. I think it's best to tell about potential deal-breakers when you know the person well enough to trust that they'll handle the information maturely, but early enough that you don't get too attached to them if they decide it's a definite deal-breaker for them. After all, if someone's not going to want to date you just because you're divorced, wouldn't you rather know sooner than later?

Does he have children? I think that adds a wrench in the works, for sure, and don't blame anyone for deciding that being a step-parent isn't a role they are willing to take on.

Portia wrote:Does he have children? I think that adds a wrench in the works, for sure, and don't blame anyone for deciding that being a step-parent isn't a role they are willing to take on.

He doesn't, but I'm even more strongly in favor of the tell-them-early strategy when there are kids involved.