bismark wrote:i would vote for the privatization of marriage. marriage is instituted of God, not of man. therefore i would vote for all marriage-like arrangements to be treated as civil unions in the eyes of the government. this is the best solution to this mess in my opinion. it stops us from trying to legislate based on religious grounds and poor understanding of judicial review (see marbury vs madison) while allowing us to keep our beliefs untouched.
I like this idea more, especially what you said somewhere else, make civil unions the only legal marriage to be able to get tax breaks and the like, and then people can get married how they please in whichever church they want. It works in Mexico just fine that way. In fact, it might just help things here so non member parents can view their children's wedding/union/whatever in the judge's office or wherever, and then the couple can go get married in temple.
Imogen wrote:the traditional family is already dead... most people don't think of marriage as eternal. a lot of people don't even think of it as an ideal situation.
Which I think is unfortunate, but may be true in most of America.
Imogen wrote:you can blather on about sin and act like you're superior, vb and eponine. however, your religion shouldn't effect the laws that govern us all. i don't believe in eternal marriage. i see how that is important you guys, but that doesn't mean that belief trumps my right to marry a woman if i want to. i don't believe being gay is a sin. i think that saying that makes you silly and small minded. but i'm not going to make it illegal for you to say that, no matter how much it makes me angry. however, why should what YOU think is a sin mean I don't get to do it as long as it's not hurting anyone? who i marry, have sex with, or live with has no effect on your life. seriously. none at all. and who you marry, etc has no effect on MY life. i hope your marriages are happy and long lasting. but whether they are or not doesn't change what happens to me.
I agree, whatever things you wish to in your house, whoever you want to shoe up with should not legally be any of my or our concern. The point of the topic is whether homosexuality is a sin or not. You don't believe it is, we do, I also think that it is anatomically weird and bizarre, but that is just me. If that sort of thing turns you on, well more power to you, just don't let me know.
As for marriage though and Proposition 8, I think the entire argument, along with Connecticut, is blown out of the water for the following reasons:
1. The courts overturned a piece of legislation as voted on by the people.
2. Civil unions were already in place with all the rights that married heterosexual people had that California could grant
3. All this fight, from how I perceive it, is a change in name only. Everyone is crying out for equality, I have read some blogs saying that separate but equal is not equal, referring to segregation. But this is far different than the 60's and the civil rights movement, which it seems to be equated to. Here is the thing though; Marriage isn't a right, taxes and everything the government assigns to it is. Marriage is an institution. That is the thing.
Imogen, you say that the sanctity of marriage, or marriage itself has been destroyed. Maybe in how it is practiced, yes. But look at the two terms 'Marriage' and 'Civil Union'. What is different? In California nothing is different, all same rights are granted to both, and people are allowed to do what they do in their houses.
The difference is in the definition, in meaning of the word. To me, marriage is something more than a Civil Union, it especially means commitment, it implies sacredness, especially in a majorly christian society where most think it is sanctioned by God and has a bit of specialness to it. Maybe to you and some others Marriage and Civil Union are synonymous, but to a whole lot more people, they are different.
Last I knew this was a democracy and the majority had the say in things. Why should we let a few thousand people in one state change the word or name of something that many more in the same state don't want changed.
And again, I believe that the judges have over-stepped their bounds and legislate things like this, just to make things more politically correct or to not offend people.
That is why I am for Prop. 8., because all it is, is a name change that people are freaking out about.
And Imogen, I would like to hear your thoughts on what I just said. Really.
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