#49806 -- girl paying

Portia · Post by **Portia** » Tue Jan 20, 2009 10:02 pm

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I guess one way that I uphold traditional gender roles (not out of any particular convictions: only moochiness), but I almost never pay on dates--less so if we are "official." This question reminded me of George Costanza saying that it's nice to get "at least a reach" for the check. Ha.

Quiet Lamb · Post by **Quiet Lamb** » Mon Jan 26, 2009 5:41 pm

I have to admit, I don't pay on too many occasions either, but generally it feels like I shouldn't really. If I'm not sure if it is a date or not, I have, on many occasions, "reached" in a sense for my purse when it came to pay, but I've never been so forward as to prevent a guy from paying. It's probably a combination of being raised by an army father from Georgia and fear of offending or embarrassing the guy because it looks like I didn't perceive it as a date, and more of just hanging out instead.

Whistler · Post by **Whistler** » Mon Jan 26, 2009 7:31 pm

I think it's only fair for the girl to pay every once in a while. I mean, if we're for women's suffrage and equal rights and all, why not be for equal paying for dates? Also, I tend to think of "paying for the date" to mean "in charge of the date." I would be kind of annoyed if I had to do whatever the guy wanted to do all the time.

Unit of Energy · Post by **Unit of Energy** » Mon Jan 26, 2009 8:50 pm

I have planned on paying, at least for myself, every date I've been on. Three times the guy paid, the other times I did. But I believe that who ever does the asking should expect to do the paying. And I've done the asking every date I've been on. But I'm not in a financial situation where I feel like I should argue. If the guy wants to pay I'll let him. And if he asks me I expect him to pay.

Giovanni Schwartz · Post by **Giovanni Schwartz** » Mon Jan 26, 2009 8:55 pm

That's a good philosophy.

Quiet Lamb · Post by **Quiet Lamb** » Tue Jan 27, 2009 1:04 am

Oops, well, I didn't think of the dates in which I've asked out the guy. Those I definitely pay. It'd be rude otherwise.

Post by **Laser Jock** » Tue Jan 27, 2009 6:37 pm

I agree that the person who asks should pay. In my (somewhat limited) dating experience, once you're actually dating someone, usually you end up both planning dates (and thus take turns paying for them).

Olympus · Post by **Olympus** » Tue Mar 03, 2009 5:34 pm

Most of the dates I've asked, the guy still insisted on paying. Even when I try.

bismark · Post by **bismark** » Tue Mar 03, 2009 5:55 pm

i just don't date. everyone wins.

Nanti-SARRMM · Post by **Nanti-SARRMM** » Tue Mar 03, 2009 7:36 pm

bismark wrote:i just don't date. everyone wins.

Ouch. That's a bit harsh don't you think?

Katya · Post by **Katya** » Tue Mar 03, 2009 7:43 pm

bismark wrote:i just don't date. everyone wins.

Hear hear!