Just to be fair, I don't think that it was intended as a rebuke. I think it was intended as a well-meaning suggestion from someone who cares deeply about the subject and feels like (s)he should stand up for his/her beliefs.Marduk wrote:... and the rebuke from Rifka...
As another tangent, sometimes standing up for the "Molly" perspective is the hardest stance to take. Especially on controversial subjects like this. Because what if everyone judges you as being holier-than-thou and shuns you? It's a large reasons why I don't often speak up in conversations like this (nor did I as a writer, either) and then people assume that the majority of the forum/group/etc. don't have a strong opinion on the black and white, but only the grey, when in fact, the people who see something as black and white are simply to scared to speak up. So I actually really appreciate Rifka's remarks that I rarely ever see as condescending or as a rebuke, because they are often things that I also believe, but am too anti-confrontational to speak up about it. I'm grateful that Rifka has the guts to say things that I wouldn't have. And if I were to have said them, I never (well, very rarely anyway) would have intended them as rebuke, but rather as standing up for what I believe.
If someone who disagrees with me stands up for what they believe in, I don't take it as a rebuke. I take it as a disagreement of opinion. If I disagree with someone and use scripture to back it up, why does that automatically make it a rebuke? It's quite possible that there is another scripture out there that could back up the other perspective. (Scriptures are funny that way.) "Rebuke" just has such a harsh connotation behind it.