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Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Sat Sep 22, 2012 9:37 pm
by krebscout
That makes a lot of sense, and I would say that's a good, solid reason. I'm always looking at it through my parenting goggles, too. And the only times I give my children "commandments" without good cause is when I'm at the end of my rope and don't want to try to hash it out. I wouldn't be too surprised if God felt like that, except he's supposed to be a lot more patient than I am.

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Sun Sep 23, 2012 12:20 am
by Portia
To address the original question, werfity werf werf fell for a player, the girlfriend got used and cheated on, and www holds delusions that Player has feelings for anyone but himself. Having been the vertex of a love triangle myself, that's what makes Kirke's answer silly: infidelity is an issue of selfishness more than lust. He plotted cheating with Werf long before they locked lips. As a writer and since, I've always been able to envision the askers, fellow writers, and message Boardeaux as deeply realized humans. It frustrates me that the guy is clearly a douche but that I can hardly claim superiority.

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 1:21 am
by mic0
Not that I think we should keep discussing making-out (for the record, I like making out - oftentimes, more than sex (TMI?? :P)), but I did want to point out something interesting. Some of you may have seen this before: Board Question #41277. It has some quotes about the early Honor Code and how different things have changed, such as views on, yes, making out!! My favorite quotes:

"Early BYU undergraduates were surprisingly more carefree in their public discussions of intimacy than their modern counterparts. Lapses may have been permissible in a given peer group, but there was no encouragement of sexual experimentation on an official level. One 1929 student expressed his appreciation for what he had learned at BYU, unintentionally revealing the dichotomy of attitudes at the school. He wrote that BYU had taught him to "live within the bounds of moral honesty and yet live shorn of the suffocating cloaks of false modesty and pretenses. I have fun with the girls: love them, kiss them, pet them; they have the same fun with me. But,' he concluded, 'I remember they are somebody's sisters. . . . I will have no double standard.'"

"In terms of the moral issues facing a religious university, few aspects of student behavior have been as problematic as sexual conduct. Nevertheless, Christensen's and Cannon's longitudinal study revealed a remarkable decrease in acceptance of premarital sexual activity by BYU students over the nearly forty years surveyed. Whereas, in 1935, 73 percent of the student body had approved of premarital "necking," 14 percent of pre-marital "petting," and 7 percent of pre-marital intercourse (a 1954 administrative study estimated that 14 percent had participated in premarital intercourse), by 1973 these figures had dropped to 48 percent for necking, 4 percent for petting, and a mere 1 percent for premarital intercourse."

A lot of writers contributed to that, even some who frequent this very forum. It's an enlightening read! :)

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 8:00 am
by UnluckyStuntman
I love the word "necking" - it's so incredibly vague. I always picture people rubbing their necks together and moaning. Too funny.

And those percentage drops with petting and pre-marital sex are really interesting. I wonder how much/if those numbers have changed since 1973...

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 8:10 am
by Giovanni Schwartz
I totally picture the same thing you do for necking. Hahaha

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 10:13 am
by Yarjka
Giovanni Schwartz wrote:I totally picture the same thing you do for necking. Hahaha
Me too :)
And petting always makes me think of a petting zoo.

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 11:36 am
by Giovanni Schwartz
I picture more of a guy petting a girl's thigh or something.

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 12:19 pm
by Portia
mic0 wrote:Not that I think we should keep discussing making-out (for the record, I like making out - oftentimes, more than sex (TMI?? :P)), but I did want to point out something interesting. Some of you may have seen this before: Board Question #41277. It has some quotes about the early Honor Code and how different things have changed, such as views on, yes, making out!! My favorite quotes:

"Early BYU undergraduates were surprisingly more carefree in their public discussions of intimacy than their modern counterparts. Lapses may have been permissible in a given peer group, but there was no encouragement of sexual experimentation on an official level. One 1929 student expressed his appreciation for what he had learned at BYU, unintentionally revealing the dichotomy of attitudes at the school. He wrote that BYU had taught him to "live within the bounds of moral honesty and yet live shorn of the suffocating cloaks of false modesty and pretenses. I have fun with the girls: love them, kiss them, pet them; they have the same fun with me. But,' he concluded, 'I remember they are somebody's sisters. . . . I will have no double standard.'"

"In terms of the moral issues facing a religious university, few aspects of student behavior have been as problematic as sexual conduct. Nevertheless, Christensen's and Cannon's longitudinal study revealed a remarkable decrease in acceptance of premarital sexual activity by BYU students over the nearly forty years surveyed. Whereas, in 1935, 73 percent of the student body had approved of premarital "necking," 14 percent of pre-marital "petting," and 7 percent of pre-marital intercourse (a 1954 administrative study estimated that 14 percent had participated in premarital intercourse), by 1973 these figures had dropped to 48 percent for necking, 4 percent for petting, and a mere 1 percent for premarital intercourse."

A lot of writers contributed to that, even some who frequent this very forum. It's an enlightening read! :)
I am always in favor of new readers being directed to my pièce de résistance. I think it was my best answer, hands down.

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 1:09 pm
by UffishThought
UnluckyStuntman wrote:I love the word "necking" - it's so incredibly vague. I always picture people rubbing their necks together and moaning. Too funny.
No, I'm pretty sure this is necking. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ynhF2wV ... re=related

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 1:14 pm
by yayfulness
UffishThought wrote:
UnluckyStuntman wrote:I love the word "necking" - it's so incredibly vague. I always picture people rubbing their necks together and moaning. Too funny.
No, I'm pretty sure this is necking. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ynhF2wV ... re=related
My reaction: Woah. Those animals really exist. That is weird.

Funny how something you've known your entire life can suddenly seem crazy.

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 1:34 pm
by Craig Jessop
Giovanni Schwartz wrote:I picture more of a guy petting a girl's thigh or something.
I pet and neck with the girls in my ward all the time. It's not creepy, I swear.

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 1:57 pm
by Portia
Craig Jessop wrote:
Giovanni Schwartz wrote:I picture more of a guy petting a girl's thigh or something.
I pet and neck with the girls in my ward all the time. It's not creepy, I swear.
Just keep it to one at a time, Craig.

Re: Making out and its ramifications

Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2012 7:25 pm
by UnluckyStuntman
UffishThought wrote:
UnluckyStuntman wrote:I love the word "necking" - it's so incredibly vague. I always picture people rubbing their necks together and moaning. Too funny.
No, I'm pretty sure this is necking. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ynhF2wV ... re=related
...so that must be where hickies come from.