Re: The Business of Being Born - #76297
Posted: Wed Feb 26, 2014 12:04 pm
I don't mean to be disagreeable, but my experiences don't back up (what I think is) your position at all. I thought I had been educated on birth. I'd read a lot of things about "trusting your body" and "trusting the process" of birth, etc. I was completely at the mercy of the information I got from my midwives and nurses for my first labor. (Once I knew how *I* labored, it was much easier and I felt more confident and empowered for my second. But that's not how it goes for a first labor)
If all I'd had to go on was what the nurse in the birth class taught, and the things I had read, I would have been at home "trusting the process" But I'd had a midwife mention at an appointment as I was getting closer to the end the different reasons to call them. I knew my water broke. And my first instinct was to laugh. And then more fluid came out and I laughed more. Then I freaked out about how I had dirty dishes in the sink. And then I went and washed them. I'd like to think that I'm some calm, rational person when it's time for action. But I'm not. I'm kind of giddy and anxious and I worry about dirty dishes at inappropriate times.
I needed someone competent to tell me exactly what to do because I wasn't really thinking straight. (Kind of like how we teach stop, drop, and roll when something catches fire, but people's first response is usually to flail or run or do everything but stop, drop, and roll). I don't put a lot of stock in instincts in and of themselves.
If all I'd had to go on was what the nurse in the birth class taught, and the things I had read, I would have been at home "trusting the process" But I'd had a midwife mention at an appointment as I was getting closer to the end the different reasons to call them. I knew my water broke. And my first instinct was to laugh. And then more fluid came out and I laughed more. Then I freaked out about how I had dirty dishes in the sink. And then I went and washed them. I'd like to think that I'm some calm, rational person when it's time for action. But I'm not. I'm kind of giddy and anxious and I worry about dirty dishes at inappropriate times.
I needed someone competent to tell me exactly what to do because I wasn't really thinking straight. (Kind of like how we teach stop, drop, and roll when something catches fire, but people's first response is usually to flail or run or do everything but stop, drop, and roll). I don't put a lot of stock in instincts in and of themselves.