Happy Days in Random Chatter 10

[Tally M.]

I kind of just wanted to be the 4000th response. Party on.

4000th response. 4001st post. Whatever.

[bobtheenchantedone]

Sometimes I skip class because I don't want to walk a mile and a half while it is actively snowing. Yes, I'm a whiner.

In my defense, not only was it snowing but I was also in the midst of trying to repair my computer in hopes I didn't have to buy a new hard drive.

[SmurfBlueSnuggie]

Communication is an awesome thing. One of the best things of my marriage, honestly. But even then, we're not perfect (specifically me) and there are often times that things need to be said for my sanity and I just hold them inside and just suffer even though I know telling him would make it all better. Thankfully those times are becoming fewer and farther between. I still need to work on that.

That's really impressive that you're working on that, DL. It's something I worry about for myself in the future. One reason why conversation skills is a deal breaker for me is that I struggle opening up like that too. I need someone I can talk to. Even then, I tend to keep my mouth shut on too many things. My last relationship taught me so much about that, and even still, I worry about my ability to confide and share with someone in the future. Were there any thoughts that are helping you in particular?

[Dragon Lady]

Hmm... good question. I had had relationships in the past where the guy had been open and prompted me to be open, too. Having to confess to someone that the reason I had run away twice, mid-kiss, to run to the bathroom to throw up was not, in fact, because they were a bad kisser, but because I became so nauseated when nervous that I often threw up on dates was... well... embarrassing. But necessary. Lest he lose his self-esteem. (True story, folks. Don't worry; it's no longer an issue. Except during some stages of pregnancy. But that's no longer due to nerves.)

When I met Yellow, things were great. We talked a lot (it helped that we were first friends mainly through chatting) and by two weeks in were confessing that we could see ourselves married to the other someday. But the real communication clincher was when another girl entered the picture (well, she had been in and out of the picture long before I ever met him) and he was torn between the two of us. The only thing that kept us together was being able to talk about it. All the good and *especially* all the bad. We broke up twice, and almost a third time (but then I cried and he decided he cared about me too much to break up with me. Both successful breaks were me breaking up with him). But he was in my ward (and my FHE brother) and we still chatted a lot. And really, I considered him my best friend. And so we talked about everything. He was really good at noticing when I was down and *making* me talk about it. Especially when I didn't want to. I found that I started *wanting* to tell him what was bothering me, but still needed him to pry it out of me. A lot of people wondered why I would stick it out so long with a guy who seemed so wishy washy, but to me it was simple. I loved him and if he told me all the bad stuff, I knew I could trust that the good stuff was good, too.

Or... did you mean thoughts that are helping me now?

[Dead Cat]

I kind of just wanted to be the 4000th response. Party on.

4000th response. 4001st post. Whatever.

In contrast to the last Random Chatter thread, which ended at 1554 and "never seemed to die." Should we begin anew? It's been over 2 years on this thread started...

[Marduk]

C is for is usually the one who tires of these things and starts new ones. Since she doesn't come around much anymore, no one has cared to kill this thread.

[UffishThought]

Today I learned that sometimes students live-tweet what happens in class. One girl mentioned that she'd tweeted several of my quotes already, and so I went and looked her up later. Luckily she didn't mention me calling satyrs "horny little goat-men." I guess I'd better watch what I say!

Except we're doing To His Coy Mistress next week, and maybe a few related poems, and they're all a bit dirty.

[Tally M.]

Today I learned that sometimes students live-tweet what happens in class. One girl mentioned that she'd tweeted several of my quotes already, and so I went and looked her up later. Luckily she didn't mention me calling satyrs "horny little goat-men." I guess I'd better watch what I say!

Except we're doing To His Coy Mistress next week, and maybe a few related poems, and they're all a bit dirty.

I live-tweet my professors a lot. To be honest, it makes me feel more engaged.

[UffishThought]

I get it, and she mostly seemed to just be enjoying my . . . unusual phraseology. But it does make me a bit paranoid--I feel like in hyper-conservative Utah, just about anything could get me in big trouble.

At the same time, it was a bit flattering. I poked around a few of the kids' feeds and found that several had tweeted their favorite lines from the poems the wrote in class. Success! They liked it!

[Portia]

I'd be the mean teacher collecting cell phones in a basket at the beginning of class. I'd wear my hear in a bun and matronly cardigans to boot. (We all know what such teachers are like in their off time.)

[UffishThought]

Aaaaand I found the a few that hate me. As of the day they got their essay tests back. Well kids, if you didn't answer main question that was in the prompt, you're going to get a bad grade.

[Emiliana]

I made liberal use of the phrase "slut-shaming" the other day while discussing The Scarlet Letter. Hopefully that didn't get tweeted.

[Emiliana]

Aaaaand I found the a few that hate me. As of the day they got their essay tests back. Well kids, if you didn't answer main question that was in the prompt, you're going to get a bad grade.

+1

[Digit]

I saw a car with a Mary Kay bumper sticker and a personalized license plate that read 'H8PEPLE.' Sounds rough.

[Whistler]

I cleaned and organized the fridge! Who knows how long that will last, but for now I know where everything is.

[wryness]

I'd be the mean teacher collecting cell phones in a basket at the beginning of class. I'd wear my hear in a bun and matronly cardigans to boot. (We all know what such teachers are like in their off time.)

I'm a teacher too, and I would totally steal this idea if I didn't think I'd have a revolt on my hands (including from parents). Also, I am a guy, so the whole hair-in-a-bun thing wouldn't work very well.

My students are so ridiculous about their phones, though. I think we're doing better than we were at the beginning of the year (I hope), but I'll still get students who react defensively when I try to confiscate their in-use phones and say "I was just texting my mom about a ride!" in a huff. They honestly can't seem to conceive of the idea of turning off their phones, and apparently some of their parents can't conceive of phones not being a 24-hour direct hotline to their kids. When I said "your parents are supposed to call the office if they want to contact you during class," I got so many reactions, it was like I had just pulled off a mask to reveal I was an alien.

Grr. (I'm not revealing any sort of pent-up angst, am I?)

Uffish, it sounds like you are doing a good job. I hope you're enjoying things!

[mic0]

I finally did my first successful internet stalking today! Curious about a certain significant person from my past, I have confirmed something I thought might be true for a few months but wasn't sure how to figure out. I guess I haven't "confirmed" it, but I'm pretty certain. It's all very strange to know, but [s]he can probably find this if I can find their secret, so I won't say any more. It's all very interesting, and I want to ask questions, but it is a personal thing and I guess if [s]he doesn't want to tell me, they don't have to.

(I have unsuccessfully tried to internet stalk my high school Latin teacher, but he covers his tracks well, I guess!)

[SmurfBlueSnuggie]

Hmm... good question. I had had relationships in the past where the guy had been open and prompted me to be open, too. Having to confess to someone that the reason I had run away twice, mid-kiss, to run to the bathroom to throw up was not, in fact, because they were a bad kisser, but because I became so nauseated when nervous that I often threw up on dates was... well... embarrassing. But necessary. Lest he lose his self-esteem. (True story, folks. Don't worry; it's no longer an issue. Except during some stages of pregnancy. But that's no longer due to nerves.)

When I met Yellow, things were great. We talked a lot (it helped that we were first friends mainly through chatting) and by two weeks in were confessing that we could see ourselves married to the other someday. But the real communication clincher was when another girl entered the picture (well, she had been in and out of the picture long before I ever met him) and he was torn between the two of us. The only thing that kept us together was being able to talk about it. All the good and *especially* all the bad. We broke up twice, and almost a third time (but then I cried and he decided he cared about me too much to break up with me. Both successful breaks were me breaking up with him). But he was in my ward (and my FHE brother) and we still chatted a lot. And really, I considered him my best friend. And so we talked about everything. He was really good at noticing when I was down and *making* me talk about it. Especially when I didn't want to. I found that I started *wanting* to tell him what was bothering me, but still needed him to pry it out of me. A lot of people wondered why I would stick it out so long with a guy who seemed so wishy washy, but to me it was simple. I loved him and if he told me all the bad stuff, I knew I could trust that the good stuff was good, too.

Or... did you mean thoughts that are helping me now?

That's actually really great. What's helping you now would also be nice. I'm still learning to communicate, too.

I'm hoping for an outcome like yours but am still in the post-first-breakup phase. I'd much rather not go through another breakup with him. When you posted your story on the Board a couple of months ago, it really gave me hope. Whether that is a good thing or not has yet to be seen. But hearing it helped a lot at the time.

You know... I hope he isn't reading the BoardBoard. I don't think he is. Well, we'll trust to hope and probability.

[Dragon Lady]

Dragon Baby just lost her first tooth! At 4.5! She's a bit traumatized, but I'm hoping once she gets used to the idea, she'll think it's pretty great. So far it's looking promising.

[mic0]

What's the regular age for losing baby teeth?

That's so exciting!