Humor will not be tolerated!! -Portia

My picture is of me with my newborn niece, who's now five months old. Does that count?

In other news, do any of your parents have to ask you how old you are ... ?

My general policy is that the picture should reflect who you are in some way, shape, or form. Bridal pictures tend to make me think you are a newlywed. If I know you have been married for two years, I feel like you are misrepresenting yourself. But hey, maybe you still feel like a newlywed, and want all of facebook to know it! (But really, I think it's more likely you're just too lazy to find a more current, decent picture of yourself.)

And if you want your profile pic to be a fictional character, or a picture of you when you were six, that's fine too, I guess. Just know that my brain will try to find connections between the you-I-know and the you-that-your-picture-reflects. So I may see the Elizabeth Bennett pic and think of you as a romantic-heroine-type or a self-deluded-wannabe. And if I see your six year-old chubby cheeks, I may think of you as a lovable kid-at-heart, or an immature-spoiled-brat.


I'm really not going to be the "Facebook Profile Picture Police". I was just griping.

I sure hope I'm the kid-at-heart...

Absolutely.

I talked to my favorite Goober today. I miss her. *sniff*

Heh, my profile picture is currently a waffle. Hope that doesn't give me away...

Going to the f-book to search for "waffle profile pics."

Your anonymous days are numbered....

My roomies can't go to Divine Comedy tonight, so I have two extra tickets for the 9 pm performance. If you want them, contact me ASAP.

Dead Cat wrote:My roomies can't go to Divine Comedy tonight, so I have two extra tickets for the 9 pm performance. If you want them, contact me ASAP.

Never mind. If anyone else is going, I'll be the one wearing a Board t-shirt.

Is it better or worse to have sour grapes if I am fully acknowledging and cognizant that I am having sour grapes? Or exhibiting sour grapes, or even not having sour grapes. I don't know what my relationship is to the saying, only that the saying is so accurate right now.

Worse. It means you acknowledge a problem and refuse to do anything about it. Better to sin in ignorance.

huh, I always took the phrase as a positive thing. Recognizing that you're belaying your desires by modifying your perceptions can be fine and good, if not taken to delusional extremes, or at the cost of another individual.

You took sour grapes as a positive thing? Being jealous of another's achievements or possessions is a good thing? I can't imagine that you'd think that. Maybe I have the phrase wrong?

It's from an Aesop Fable, right? The Fox pretends the grapes he wants (but cannot get) are sour because he is jealous/bitter/envious. It doesn't have a positive connotation in my mind.

Yeah, it's saying "I can't have it so it must not be that great anyway." I don't think I need to be specific about what area I'm exhibiting this behavior in, but recognizing is only the first step...and the only step I've managed yet to take.

In good news, you have recognized it. And from what I hear, that's the biggest and hardest step.

How about having irrational feelings while simultaneously recognizing that they are totally irrational?

"Driven by hunger, a fox tried to reach some grapes hanging high on the vine but was unable to, although he leaped with all his strength. As he went away, the fox remarked, 'Oh, you aren't even ripe yet! I don't need any sour grapes.' People who speak disparagingly of things that they cannot attain would do well to apply this story to themselves."

I see it better to alter your thoughts to lessen a desire for that which you can not have than to continue to pine. (ie. Curbing a gambling craving by telling yourself that you wouldn't win anyway.) Granted, there may be better options than sour grapes, but in and of itself, I don't see it as a bad thing.

thebigcheese wrote:How about having irrational feelings while simultaneously recognizing that they are totally irrational?

While apparently this is not uncommon, I'd say it is just about the most frightening thing I can imagine.


Eeek. Just... eeek.

thebigcheese wrote:How about having irrational feelings while simultaneously recognizing that they are totally irrational?

This pretty much sums up my highly emotional days. And yet, Yellow still loves me. Hooray!

(Sorry, Tao. Can we still be friends?)

Of course. But I'm afraid it is going to throw a monkey wrench in your plans to have me as a second husband. Sorry.