"Mormon" vs. "LDS"
Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2011 6:45 am
I was reading a news article which was discussing the difference between "Mormon" and "LDS:" that is, the culture, and the religion.
I would argue that one could be Mormon without necessarily being active in the LDS church. Possible examples:
Ethnically: if you are seventh-generation Mormon (like me), that's a pretty huge part of your identity
Culturally: if you watch Divine Comedy clips on YouTube, love family history and are under the age of 50, want a child before you turn 25, have played the piano since the age of 3 and collect board games... well, you're not normal, that's for sure. Good chance you're "Mormon" if you were at least raised in the Church
Identity(ally?): Various Jack Mormons, gay Mormons, creepy-southern-Utah-polygamist Mormons struggle with this one all the time. I think I can relate: sure, when I go to, say, my BIL's missionary homecoming, OTHERS may see this as some sort of "reactivation," but I never stopped being "Mormon" ... I never became anything else. You can certainly be a Jew or a Christian or a Catholic and not go to church every Sunday.
Of course having a calling, a temple recommend, being BYU-worthy are salient parts of people's lives . . . and of course I'm not arguing against that. Clearly there IS a difference between the person who goes once a year and the person who goes fifty times a year to any given church/activity/whathaveyou.
But on the other hand, I feel like there's this weird fracturing sometimes . . . I guess I don't see if someone doesn't show up at some point, that they "stopped" being Mormon at all, unless they wrote a resignation letter to Church headquarters. "Ex-" implies a complete break, like an ex-wife or something. Isn't this the whole discourse of the Church? Trying to get people back in the fold? I remember in my various leadership positions talking about this ALL THE TIME. If you are not "Mormon" by being inactive, then what are you when the missionaries and your parents and your friends in their temple weddings try to persuade you back? It's silly to pretend that you are just "nothing," like some hipster who pretends to not like any song that gets covered on Glee.
So, what to you is the difference? Can someone be Mormon if they still think they could join up again, but haven't decided? If they're indistinguishable from Mormons in every other way but just don't believe the church is true?
I think from a sociological point of view, it's about "in" groups and "out" groups. Which, if you read the Book of Mormon, it seems that getting people back was a big deal. Are you only a "true" Mormon if you never question, never mess up, follow all the checklist boxes? I know about 4 people who have done that: all lovely, but a pretty small number!
I guess this is all to say that when I have lived outside Utah, I am often hesitant to classify myself this way: it seems a bit like saying you're a vegetarian when you eat pepperoni pizza then feel bad about it. But I think the conversations it starts are worthwhile: people have silly ideas, and anyway, they would probably get a better view of my personality than me just admitting it than not. Once I start denying my family is, then that's where it gets REALLY stupid, because c'mon... that's just lying.
One of my friends from France who worked with me at a summer camp said he was Catholic, but he wasn't so sure he believed in God. I know to a lot of LDS people, this seems strange, if not hypocritical... but trust me, if you go to Catholic school, learn the catechism, celebrate Catholic holidays... then you're Catholic in a meaningful sense.
I remember reading My Name Is Asher Lev, and thinking it was one of the best books about this weird chasm between what you believe and how you were brought up. Something like that for Mormonism that was not snarky, rude, written by someone who isn't even Mormon, or in a juvenile voice would be nice. I have yet to find it.
What do you think? Even if you're a BYU poster child, do you advertise your religion? It seems to have to do with extroverted/introverted personality? Do you have friends/relatives who still claim part of their "Mormon identity" though they aren't really active LDS people? Do you feel offended if someone you think is clearly flaunting Mormon codes (a sexually active gay person, a theologically heterodox blogger, a polygamist wife) claims "Mormonism" for herself?
I would argue that one could be Mormon without necessarily being active in the LDS church. Possible examples:
Ethnically: if you are seventh-generation Mormon (like me), that's a pretty huge part of your identity
Culturally: if you watch Divine Comedy clips on YouTube, love family history and are under the age of 50, want a child before you turn 25, have played the piano since the age of 3 and collect board games... well, you're not normal, that's for sure. Good chance you're "Mormon" if you were at least raised in the Church
Identity(ally?): Various Jack Mormons, gay Mormons, creepy-southern-Utah-polygamist Mormons struggle with this one all the time. I think I can relate: sure, when I go to, say, my BIL's missionary homecoming, OTHERS may see this as some sort of "reactivation," but I never stopped being "Mormon" ... I never became anything else. You can certainly be a Jew or a Christian or a Catholic and not go to church every Sunday.
Of course having a calling, a temple recommend, being BYU-worthy are salient parts of people's lives . . . and of course I'm not arguing against that. Clearly there IS a difference between the person who goes once a year and the person who goes fifty times a year to any given church/activity/whathaveyou.
But on the other hand, I feel like there's this weird fracturing sometimes . . . I guess I don't see if someone doesn't show up at some point, that they "stopped" being Mormon at all, unless they wrote a resignation letter to Church headquarters. "Ex-" implies a complete break, like an ex-wife or something. Isn't this the whole discourse of the Church? Trying to get people back in the fold? I remember in my various leadership positions talking about this ALL THE TIME. If you are not "Mormon" by being inactive, then what are you when the missionaries and your parents and your friends in their temple weddings try to persuade you back? It's silly to pretend that you are just "nothing," like some hipster who pretends to not like any song that gets covered on Glee.
So, what to you is the difference? Can someone be Mormon if they still think they could join up again, but haven't decided? If they're indistinguishable from Mormons in every other way but just don't believe the church is true?
I think from a sociological point of view, it's about "in" groups and "out" groups. Which, if you read the Book of Mormon, it seems that getting people back was a big deal. Are you only a "true" Mormon if you never question, never mess up, follow all the checklist boxes? I know about 4 people who have done that: all lovely, but a pretty small number!
I guess this is all to say that when I have lived outside Utah, I am often hesitant to classify myself this way: it seems a bit like saying you're a vegetarian when you eat pepperoni pizza then feel bad about it. But I think the conversations it starts are worthwhile: people have silly ideas, and anyway, they would probably get a better view of my personality than me just admitting it than not. Once I start denying my family is, then that's where it gets REALLY stupid, because c'mon... that's just lying.
One of my friends from France who worked with me at a summer camp said he was Catholic, but he wasn't so sure he believed in God. I know to a lot of LDS people, this seems strange, if not hypocritical... but trust me, if you go to Catholic school, learn the catechism, celebrate Catholic holidays... then you're Catholic in a meaningful sense.
I remember reading My Name Is Asher Lev, and thinking it was one of the best books about this weird chasm between what you believe and how you were brought up. Something like that for Mormonism that was not snarky, rude, written by someone who isn't even Mormon, or in a juvenile voice would be nice. I have yet to find it.
What do you think? Even if you're a BYU poster child, do you advertise your religion? It seems to have to do with extroverted/introverted personality? Do you have friends/relatives who still claim part of their "Mormon identity" though they aren't really active LDS people? Do you feel offended if someone you think is clearly flaunting Mormon codes (a sexually active gay person, a theologically heterodox blogger, a polygamist wife) claims "Mormonism" for herself?