"When Are You Getting Married?"

[UffishThought]

So when are you getting married? (I kid. I kid because I care.)

My favorite answer for this is always from Much Ado. "Why every day! Tomorrow!" Which your sister uses, but maybe only with me, because I know that she just likes to quote it too, and it doesn't mean anything.

[Genuine Article]

So when are you getting married? (I kid. I kid because I care.)

My favorite answer for this is always from Much Ado. "Why every day! Tomorrow!" Which your sister uses, but maybe only with me, because I know that she just likes to quote it too, and it doesn't mean anything.

M-Lite or DJ Burgers Supreme?

[UffishThought]

Uh, not M-Lite, so I guess it's DJ Burgers Supreme. (How dare you make me hungry for them after they're closed!) The one that gets that question all the dang time, poor thing.

[Tally M.]

So, I went in to talk to my bishop for another get to know you interview. One of his first questions he asked about bringing up the fact that I have a boyfriend was, "So, why aren't you engaged?"
"It's only been three months..."
"So?"
"We're not a normal BYU couple.."

[mic0]

ಠ_ಠ

That would bother me SO MUCH. Your reply was very diplomatic, good work!

[Tally M.]

I think I mollified him when I explained my situation in a very mature way and basically explained the fact that I can be patient with however long it takes us to come to the decision. Took awhile to convince him of that though.

[vorpal blade]

So, I went in to talk to my bishop for another get to know you interview. One of his first questions he asked about bringing up the fact that I have a boyfriend was, "So, why aren't you engaged?"
"It's only been three months..."
"So?"
"We're not a normal BYU couple.."

What a contrast to my own experience at BYU. I remember my last temple recommend interview at BYU with a member of the stake presidency. I was close to graduating from BYU with a Master's degree and was planning to go to another school with a Ph.D. program. At the conclusion of the interview I asked him about something that was bothering me. I hadn't asked my bishop for some reason. "I've been dating this girl for several years now."
"And?"
"Should I get engaged?"
"Whoa! Now that is the $64,000 question!"

I don't remember much of what he said after that. I know he didn't say "yes" and he didn't say "no." He just talked about studying it out in my mind and receiving my own answer to prayer.

[Katya]

So, I went in to talk to my bishop for another get to know you interview. One of his first questions he asked about bringing up the fact that I have a boyfriend was, "So, why aren't you engaged?"
"It's only been three months..."
"So?"

See, I think your bishop has a potential conflict of interest, here. In theory, he should be encouraging ward members towards happy, healthy relationships, on whatever time frame is appropriate. In practice, he has a strong incentive to rush couples into getting engaged and then getting married, because then they're no longer his problem (and no longer at risk for chastity violations).

[Tally M.]

Regardless, the answer is: Not anytime in the foreseeable future.

[Katya]

Regardless, the answer is: Not anytime in the foreseeable future.

True. I was thinking more in the abstract, and less about your specific situation.

[Tally M.]

Yeah, I figured as much

[Portia]

The answer to this question appears to be June or so for me.

[Dragon Lady]

The answer to this question appears to be June or so for me.

Congrats! I will celebrate by having a baby around the same time.

[Whistler]

!!

[Imogen]

My cousin called me from Africa to wish me a happy birthday and to tell me to find a husband...

I'm working on it, sheesh!

[Emiliana]

Yay! Congrats! Is there a shiny ring you can post a picture of??

[Portia]

Yay! Congrats! Is there a shiny ring you can post a picture of??

Details forthcoming. Probably around the holidays.

[Violet]

Congratulations Portia.

[Portia]

Thank you, but now I'm really self-conscious. I'm not engaged. Now I've jinxed it.

[Katya]

Thank you, but now I'm really self-conscious. I'm not engaged. Now I've jinxed it.

Congrats on not being engaged! (That will un-jinx you.)