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spouse solicitousness regarding pain
Posted: Wed Dec 23, 2015 3:12 pm
by Whistler
http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/ar ... 9987900821
So... the best thing for a spouse of someone with chronic pain is to ignore their complaints?
Re: spouse solicitousness regarding pain
Posted: Sat Dec 26, 2015 9:39 am
by Rainbow_connection
Interesting! My husband has a chronic condition that causes him quite a lot of pain at times (damaged tendons in his feet), and I would agree with the study that if either of us treats it like a huge deal it just makes it harder to deal with. When he complains I don't ignore him but I do usually just offer to get him an ibuprofen or glass of water or something. I think treating things matter-of-factly gives them less power.