Sexting in the bonds of holy matrimony
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Sexting in the bonds of holy matrimony
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They asked this question?
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HahahaZedability wrote:They asked this question?
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I just... why does this matter? Why do you have to know whether it's okay? They aren't hurting anyone. Just let it be. This kind of thing confuses me.
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BECAUSE WHAT IF HIS WIFE IS ACCIDENTALLY PORNOGRAPHYTheBlackSheep wrote:I just... why does this matter? Why do you have to know whether it's okay? They aren't hurting anyone. Just let it be. This kind of thing confuses me.
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I'm more bothered by the idea of asking friends to take your nude photos.
"Hey Amanda, take my picture."
*takes of clothes* *poses*
"Amanda? where'd you....go?"
"Hey Amanda, take my picture."
*takes of clothes* *poses*
"Amanda? where'd you....go?"
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I'm less "bothered" and more "intrigued" ... what if Amanda is bi? Rule 34 kidsNovemberEast wrote:I'm more bothered by the idea of asking friends to take your nude photos.
"Hey Amanda, take my picture."
*takes of clothes* *poses*
"Amanda? where'd you....go?"
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I think it's possible that she was just doing boudoir shots in her undies and the person is calling them nude shots in the same way that a lot of Mormons call anyone who has more than a glass of wine a month an alcoholic.
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Bingo.Zedability wrote:They asked this question?
hahaha. Yep. Or R-rated movies are pornography. Or going to the beach is pornography. As for me, I tend to agree with Brandi.Zedability wrote:I think it's possible that she was just doing boudoir shots in her undies and the person is calling them nude shots in the same way that a lot of Mormons call anyone who has more than a glass of wine a month an alcoholic.
Or maybe the person has a sensibility less steeped in puritan morality and shame. Plenty of people out there are perfectly comfortable with nudity and don't have a prurient agenda. I visited a clothing-optional beach for the first time a while back and it was shockingly un-erotic. This submitter should look into one of those.
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HAHA!Zedability wrote:I think it's possible that she was just doing boudoir shots in her undies and the person is calling them nude shots in the same way that a lot of Mormons call anyone who has more than a glass of wine a month an alcoholic.
That would make a lot more sense. And I could see it as even less awkward if the friend already did that as part of their photography business. My husband and I have discussed this type of photography and we both decided that our issue boiled down to the chance that if we suddenly died in a fiery crash and someone (possibly a future child) found the photos going through our belongings...well it would be weird and possibly require a lot of therapy. Of course, we wouldn't be around to be embarrassed, but no thanks. For those that aren't as "worst case scenario" as us and possibly more adept at photo security measures, I figure it's fine.
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Okay, sorry, maybe I'm a prude, but if a female married friend was like heyyyyyy will you snap a boobies shot for my hubby I'd be like honey, you're drunk, that's what the self-facing camera is for
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And as I was discussing very erotically with Zed, my anxiety is sooooo far off the charts that sexting is pretty much a no (of course I find fully clothed headshots of preppie engineers deeply arousing so, TED talks are pretty much pornographic for me)
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Also, I have to (rarely) disagree with Zed here, introducing the Spirit/Jesus/any third party into one's erotic/committed relationship now strikes me as just really ... odd, I guess ... I know that in my youth it felt like a freaky threeway, haha, and seems like an introduction of yet another male gaze, which I guess if that's your thing, but yeah
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Because her euphemism for nudity is "nakey"?Cognoscente wrote:You know how I know this question-asker isn't married?
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Are we not doing phrasing anymore?And as I was discussing very erotically with Zed
And yeah, I definitely think that the Mormon idea that you need to be actively feeling the Spirit during sex is...super weird, frankly. I think it would definitely kill the mood to constantly be like, AM I STILL FEELING THE SPIRIT. I guess what I meant was, if you feel like something is actively "driving the Spirit away," which basically means "making one of the people feel sad or uncomfortable," don't do it. Which is a pretty common-sense standard, whether you believe that feeling is due to the Spirit or just due to individual preferences and comfort zones.
And, when you believe in prayer and that God has opinions on what kind of sex are okay, it makes sense to me that you could pray and ask God "is this particular kind of sex okay?" Just not, like, in the middle of foreplay. Haha.
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Uggghhhhhh raaaaaaaaage. You and your ways with pushing my rage buttons.Marduk wrote:BECAUSE WHAT IF HIS WIFE IS ACCIDENTALLY PORNOGRAPHY
Okay, sure, there is no way in hell I would ask a friend to do this for me, and it's not exactly an everyday request, but why do we need to ask a bunch of strangers whether it is moral or not? I just, ugh. It's just somebody's (really pretty fantastically innocent) sex life, buddy. Everybody has one (hopefully, eventually).NovemberEast wrote:I'm more bothered by the idea of asking friends to take your nude photos.
Yes, this was my takeaway as well.Zedability wrote:I think it's possible that she was just doing boudoir shots in her undies and the person is calling them nude shots in the same way that a lot of Mormons call anyone who has more than a glass of wine a month an alcoholic.
Dear merciful heavens, what kind of boudoir shots were you thinking of taking? I mean, I wouldn't want anybody coming across boudoir shots of me necessarily (though hey, I guess that depends on the picture, cause there's one I took once that if someone found it I'd just be all, yeah, I look good, but I am decidedly clothed in that picture) but sex happens, y'all. Weird, maaaaaaaybe, but that's gotta be the extent of that.NovemberEast wrote:My husband and I have discussed this type of photography and we both decided that our issue boiled down to the chance that if we suddenly died in a fiery crash and someone (possibly a future child) found the photos going through our belongings...well it would be weird and possibly require a lot of therapy.
Yeah, there's that.Amity wrote:Because her euphemism for nudity is "nakey"?Cognoscente wrote:You know how I know this question-asker isn't married?
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First of all, this is the most tame citing of rule 34 ever. Second of all, I'm pretty sure rule 34 is primarily meant for weird stuff, and being queer and finding yourself in fortuitous situations is a really common occurrence in life and theme in porn, so. More like, "Amanda and lots of queer people's common fantasy."Portia wrote:I'm less "bothered" and more "intrigued" ... what if Amanda is bi? Rule 34 kids
Also: Amanda, get out of the closet. Kisses, TBS
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Haha OKCupid tells me I'm significantly less suave yet more sex-driven than the average gal so "the most tame citing of rule 34" sounds like me hahaTheBlackSheep wrote:First of all, this is the most tame citing of rule 34 ever. Second of all, I'm pretty sure rule 34 is primarily meant for weird stuff, and being queer and finding yourself in fortuitous situations is a really common occurrence in life and theme in porn, so. More like, "Amanda and lots of queer people's common fantasy."Portia wrote:I'm less "bothered" and more "intrigued" ... what if Amanda is bi? Rule 34 kids
Also: Amanda, get out of the closet. Kisses, TBS
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I think everyone is giving young marrieds of Provo way too much credit in this thread. Haha.Amity wrote:Because her euphemism for nudity is "nakey"?Cognoscente wrote:You know how I know this question-asker isn't married?
Also can the HCO investigate you for being an accessory to texting? How bad are things down south?
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TIL that in the Fifty Shades sequel, the faux-sadist billionaire favors the missionary position with his pants on ... so this wasn't even the most awkward sex thing of the day I read. :PZedability wrote:Are we not doing phrasing anymore?And as I was discussing very erotically with Zed
And yeah, I definitely think that the Mormon idea that you need to be actively feeling the Spirit during sex is...super weird, frankly. I think it would definitely kill the mood to constantly be like, AM I STILL FEELING THE SPIRIT. I guess what I meant was, if you feel like something is actively "driving the Spirit away," which basically means "making one of the people feel sad or uncomfortable," don't do it. Which is a pretty common-sense standard, whether you believe that feeling is due to the Spirit or just due to individual preferences and comfort zones.
And, when you believe in prayer and that God has opinions on what kind of sex are okay, it makes sense to me that you could pray and ask God "is this particular kind of sex okay?" Just not, like, in the middle of foreplay. Haha.