I am morally and politically against so-called 'gay marriage'. And yes I see a distinction between moral and political opposition on this issue. But setting aside my personal beliefs on the matter, I think the Church Newsroom has some informative things to say about the Church's stance on Proposition 8. For example, the Church recognizes many rights already enjoyed by homosexuals:
As the writers mentioned, (true) hate speech and ill-treatment of homosexuals is in no way condoned:The Church does not object to rights (already established in California) regarding hospitalization and medical care, fair housing and employment rights, or probate rights, so long as these do not infringe on the integrity of the family or the constitutional rights of churches and their adherents to administer and practice their religion free from government interference.
I suspect that the "hateful comments and jokes that are EVERYWHERE" mostly consist of offhand comments, such as "That's so gay" or "You homo". While these are still unacceptable, they are negligent rather than flagrant.The Church’s opposition to same-sex marriage neither constitutes nor condones any kind of hostility towards homosexual men and women. Protecting marriage between a man and a woman does not affect Church members’ Christian obligations of love, kindness and humanity toward all people.
Concerning those who chose to oppose Prop 8:
And what I think is the most important (at least regarding the reader's concerns):As Church members decide their own appropriate level of involvement in protecting marriage between a man and a woman, they should approach this issue with respect for others, understanding, honesty, and civility.
To summarize, allowing gay marriage might have legal ramifications for the Church and for families. Some legal professionals claim that these concerns are baseless. Perhaps they are (but I think that's unlikely given the way things have already been going). In any case, the Church is playing it safe. Even if the reader disagrees with half the political spectrum trying to legislate their beliefs and morality (obviously they don't mind if the other half does), I think they can appreciate that Proposition 8 also legally protected the Church and its assets. And I hope that that can calm their troubled heart.Legalizing same-sex marriage will affect a wide spectrum of government activities and policies. Once a state government declares that same-sex unions are a civil right, those governments almost certainly will enforce a wide variety of other policies intended to ensure that there is no discrimination against same-sex couples. This may well place “church and state on a collision course.â€
The prospect of same-sex marriage has already spawned legal collisions with the rights of free speech and of action based on religious beliefs. For example, advocates and government officials in certain states already are challenging the long-held right of religious adoption agencies to follow their religious beliefs and only place children in homes with both a mother and a father. As a result, Catholic Charities in Boston has stopped offering adoption services.
Other advocates of same-sex marriage are suggesting that tax exemptions and benefits be withdrawn from any religious organization that does not embrace same-sex unions. Public accommodation laws are already being used as leverage in an attempt to force religious organizations to allow marriage celebrations or receptions in religious facilities that are otherwise open to the public. Accrediting organizations in some instances are asserting pressure on religious schools and universities to provide married housing for same-sex couples. Student religious organizations are being told by some universities that they may lose their campus recognition and benefits if they exclude same-sex couples from club membership.
Many of these examples have already become the legal reality in several nations of the European Union, and the European Parliament has recommended that laws guaranteeing and protecting the rights of same-sex couples be made uniform across the EU. Thus, if same-sex marriage becomes a recognized civil right, there will be substantial conflicts with religious freedom. And in some important areas, religious freedom may be diminished.
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As just one example of how children will be adversely affected, the establishment of same-sex marriage as a civil right will inevitably require mandatory changes in school curricula. When the state says that same-sex unions are equivalent to heterosexual marriages, the curriculum of public schools will have to support this claim. Beginning with elementary school, children will be taught that marriage can be defined as a relation between any two adults and that consensual sexual relations are morally neutral. Classroom instruction on sex education in secondary schools can be expected to equate homosexual intimacy with heterosexual relations. These developments will create serious clashes between the agenda of the secular school system and the right of parents to teach their children traditional standards of morality.