Avoiding an ex
Posted: Thu Nov 10, 2016 2:21 am
For context I asked these questions over the summer concerning the guy I dated: http://theboard.byu.edu/questions/86829/, http://theboard.byu.edu/questions/87233/, and http://theboard.byu.edu/questions/87407/. Read them if you like, but they're not essential to my question.
Basically I'm still really mad at my ex even though we broke up almost 5 months ago. We were really good friends before we dated and he did some pretty crummy stuff after we broke up like flirting with someone else in front of me 3 days after the break up and ignoring me for over a week. I texted him about two weeks after the break up and said that I still wanted to be friends, and he agreed but he never did anything to make that happen. I went to his birthday party almost a month post-breakup, then we were both at a game night the next day. After those two interactions I felt terrible so I decided that I couldn't see him anymore and we've had almost zero interaction since then. I moved out of the ward as soon as I could and he started dating someone else. In the time since the breakup I've pretty much convinced myself that this guy is nothing but a manipulative, lying, d-bag even though part of me still longs for the friendship we used to have. I think my biggest beef with him is that he said that he cared about me but everything that he did after the breakup seemed to indicate otherwise.
Here's where the question comes in: my old roommate is having a birthday dinner tomorrow and my ex and I were both invited. I still don't want to see him at all. I've already avoided several parties that I thought he could be at because even the thought of seeing him makes me feel sick. But I also don't want to sacrifice seeing my old roommate and a bunch of other friends that I really like just because I'm avoiding this one jerk. This was my first relationship so I have no experience with exes. So what do I do, should I keep avoiding him?
Basically I'm still really mad at my ex even though we broke up almost 5 months ago. We were really good friends before we dated and he did some pretty crummy stuff after we broke up like flirting with someone else in front of me 3 days after the break up and ignoring me for over a week. I texted him about two weeks after the break up and said that I still wanted to be friends, and he agreed but he never did anything to make that happen. I went to his birthday party almost a month post-breakup, then we were both at a game night the next day. After those two interactions I felt terrible so I decided that I couldn't see him anymore and we've had almost zero interaction since then. I moved out of the ward as soon as I could and he started dating someone else. In the time since the breakup I've pretty much convinced myself that this guy is nothing but a manipulative, lying, d-bag even though part of me still longs for the friendship we used to have. I think my biggest beef with him is that he said that he cared about me but everything that he did after the breakup seemed to indicate otherwise.
Here's where the question comes in: my old roommate is having a birthday dinner tomorrow and my ex and I were both invited. I still don't want to see him at all. I've already avoided several parties that I thought he could be at because even the thought of seeing him makes me feel sick. But I also don't want to sacrifice seeing my old roommate and a bunch of other friends that I really like just because I'm avoiding this one jerk. This was my first relationship so I have no experience with exes. So what do I do, should I keep avoiding him?