stargirl wrote:Whistler wrote:right... I'm fond of the theory that creepiness just depends on the level of undesirability
Oh, i can certainly agree with this. But i
have seen good-looking guys act in a creepy manner, and i've seen not-so-good-looking guys behave charmingly. Maybe they're exceptions to the rule. I'm just trying to say: i meant creepy behavior, not appearance.
I agree. I think that "creepy" has a lot more to do with gauging reactions and social appropriateness than it does with being attractive, but they're not unrelated. Ex., the attractive guy knows he's attractive and knows (based on past experience) that he can get away with using a pickup line on a girl he doesn't know. (Also, attractiveness itself has a lot to do with presentation and social awareness, so it's not impossible that attractive guys also tend to be more socially aware.) The average-looking guy who's also socially unaware tries to do the same thing but with bad results and can't figure out what he's doing wrong. The average-looking guy who
is socially aware focuses on situations where he has a chance to get to know a girl before he asks her out (and, frankly, I think he may be in the best situation of the three).
stargirl wrote:I guess i'm just more concerned that he wasn't even interested in "getting involved to meet new people with similar interests" type-things. He seemed more interested in picking up random girls he'd never met. But it is difficult to judge over a couple paragraphs. Regardless, whether he is an attractive guy or not (in appearance or behavior), i think it really does depend on the girl, and it makes me uncomfortable.
It would make me uncomfortable, too. (Of course, I'm not one of those 10s he's looking to pick up, anyway, so he'd probably leave me in peace.)