Mixed-gender living

[SMP]

Board Question #62989

I think people are making too big a deal out of this. In my student/singles ward out here in California, members live in mixed-gender environments all the time, and it's really not a big deal. There is even a house owned by the parents of a student, and they rent out to mostly members in the ward. And these are all active, practicing Mormons. As far as I know, neither the bishop nor the stake president, who both are aware of the situation, have discouraged this.

[NerdGirl]

I completely agree. I think it's probably not a good idea to live alone with someone that you're romantically involved with if your goal is have sex until you're married, but people in my branch end up in mixed-gender living arrangements all the time and nothing bad happens. Typically it's multiple roommates, both male and female, and everyone has separate rooms. They're not going to go randomly have sex just because there's a boy in the room upstairs any more than I'm going to decide to knock on the door of the single guy in the apartment down the hall from me in the middle of the night and randomly have sex with him.

[Imogen]

i'm certainly no paragon of virginal virtue, but when i lived in my co-ed dorm, there was a taboo about getting involved with someone on your hall. if things went south, it made everyone very uncomfortable. and no one wants to listen to a lover's quarrel when they're trying to brush their teeth. so i didn't even date guys that lived in my building.

but i had a friend who is waiting until marriage, and she said living with guys was no temptation for her at all. but i think that had a lot to do with her character. she was very zen and a total sweetheart. she was always happy. and she had a very strong sense of who she was and what she wanted out of a relationship, so she just never worried about it.

[Tao]

i'm certainly no paragon of virginal virtue...

Little to add, but I have to say that I misread this as "I'm certainly no polygon of virginal virtue..."

Adds a bit of spice to your geometry class.

[Imogen]

i'm certainly no paragon of virginal virtue...

Little to add, but I have to say that I misread this as "I'm certainly no polygon of virginal virtue..."

Adds a bit of spice to your geometry class.

i have noting to add but: "BAHAHAHAHAHA!"