Depression disclosure

[Portia]

I wouldn't feel comfortable with a guy sharing something I'd consider quite personal early on, and would prefer he wait. To me, it'd feel like interjecting, "great carbonara! So, about my dead mother." It doesn't make that part of me bad or shameful, just private.

But I also become official ... pretty much instanter. I just don't feel the need to know about your crazy brother-in-law, your thwarted PhD plans, your drinking yourself into an early grave in London, off the bat. It's like woah, TMI, bro.

Not that I wouldn't want to know, eventually. Although honestly a part of me would be fine with a pre-therapy relationship where we just keep some of this kind of stuff to ourselves. It's interesting because I am very outgoing, but at the same time, I've been described as very "closed-off" by dudes.

[Emiliana]

I always found that both depression and my dead mother came up on their own before a relationship reached a particularly relationshippy phase. (Although, my mom's been dead more than 18 years, so it's pretty easy for the first time it comes up to be as a sort of unusual biographical detail, like how some people have divorced parents and some people don't have a sense of smell.)

[Giovanni Schwartz]

I feel like you're leading on for a question about lack of sense of smell, but then I remembered that I've seen two different board questions about it, and they both said, I believe, that the term is "anosmic." Oh, Wikipedia says it's "anosmia" as a noun.

[krebscout]

That's me. Well, I have one, but it's very weak. It seems more like there's certain smells I can't detect and some that I can.

[Whistler]

really? Unfun fact: People who lose their sense of smell are more likely to get depressed about it than people who lose their sight or hearing.

[Portia]

really? Unfun fact: People who lose their sense of smell are more likely to get depressed about it than people who lose their sight or hearing.

How soon ought one to disclose anosmic-related depression in a relationship?

[NerdGirl]

I have like a hyperactive sense of smell.

[Zedability]

I have a bad sense of smell, but since I was born that way, it doesn't bother me.

[Emiliana]

I feel like you're leading on for a question about lack of sense of smell

Nah.