bipap machines and sleep apnea

[Squirrel]

Okay, guys..... It was me. I guess I should have changed my 'nym to "I look like Darth Vedra". And I don't have a known future spouse. I'm completely single. I just wanted to know how much it would possibly bother a spouse.

Reasons- it can get cold-the exhaust from me breathing out has enough force to whistle when my blankets get too close.
I look ridiculous.
I have the quietest machine on the market, but that doesn't mean it's silent.
Mostly only elderly or overweight people use them, so I feel odd- I don't fit either of those two categories.

[yayfulness]

Honestly, I think it would be a kind of ridiculous deal-breaker.

[Squirrel]

Thanks. I'm glad to hear it's silly to make that big of a deal out of it.

[yayfulness]

I mean, obviously it's not going to be the most convenient thing ever, but anyone who loves you enough to think about marrying you won't be bugged by the inconvenience.

[Squirrel]

[Zedability]

Worst-case scenario, you guys sleep in separate rooms. And I know happy couples who do that because of tossing and turning, restless leg syndrome, snoring, or different sleep schedules.

[S.A.M.]

You just need to find a Star Wars fan who would to totally think of it as awesome to sleep next to Darth Vedra. Own it, make it fun, something positive. Do they make Darth Vader replica bibpap masks (or Vedra stylish instead)(maybe just paint yours shiny black)?

[krebscout]

My 36-year-old, buff brother has had one for years, and he and his wife share a bed together just fine. Earplugs 4vr.

[NerdGirl]

My dad has had one for years and my mom doesn't mind at all. It's actually a huge improvement over the snore-choke-gag-wake-up repeat x 100 every hour cycle that went on before his sleep apnea was treated. And she also doesn't have to worry that he's going to stop breathing in the middle of the night and die anymore. His machine is small and quiet, and I doubt that I would even notice if I shared a bed with someone who was using it. But honestly, if I loved someone, I would marry them even if they needed to sleep with something massive and intrusive and incredibly noisy. I would find a way to make it work. No medical problem would ever be a deal breaker for me (although having plenty of medical problems of my own, I realize my perspective may be a bit different from most people's).

[NerdGirl]

And there are plenty of people who aren't elderly or overweight who use them. Even little kids sometimes get sleep apnea. So you're not odd at all.

[Squirrel]

Thanks guys! This makes me feel so much better about the whole thing. You're all awesome. *group hug*

[Emiliana]

Yeah, I wouldn't care that much, either. Don't stress about it!