#72791 - Friendzoning

[Tally M.]

Board Question #72791

I've done it a few times to say the least (seriously, I hate hurting people.)...the best story I've heard is actually from my coworker, though.

The girl he was dating told him that she loved him, and after an awkwardly long pause, he said, "That's nice."

[Squirrel]

Hahahaa! Ooh, that's just too good!

[SmurfBlueSnuggie]

One person saying "I love you" when the other one doesn't feel that way doesn't always mean friendzoning. Now, it may lead the one who doesn't feel love to friendzone the other out of fear of leading them on, but it can also lead to mutual love and marriage. I had two roommates go through that. In one case, he said he loved her. Her response "Thank you." A month or so later, she told him she loved him. They've been married a year. In the other case, she said she loved him. His response was something like "Oh. Ok. Thanks?" And she said "You're welcome. You're also welcome that I don't expect you to say the same to me. I know how you feel, and I understand that I'm less nervous about this than you are." They continued to date for several more months like this, and are now married.

[Tally M.]

I mentioned that one as an instance of friendzoning since "true story" did so. Plus, the relationship also didn't work out =P

[SmurfBlueSnuggie]

Oh, I understand. I just wanted to share opposite stories because that was the second "I love you friendzoning." Although I'm pretty sure the response "I just love everyone!" does friendzone pretty efficiently.

[Tally M.]

My sister used a pretty unintentionally effective technique at a church dance.

"What kind of kitchen appliance would you be?" her dance partner asked. "I would be a stove."
"Electric or gas?" my sister asked.
"Electric."
"I prefer gas."

[Portia]

My sister used a pretty unintentionally effective technique at a church dance.

"What kind of kitchen appliance would you be?" her dance partner asked. "I would be a stove."
"Electric or gas?" my sister asked.
"Electric."
"I prefer gas."

Seems like innuendo to me.