This is triggered specifically by a question from a week or so ago. (The exact number? I have interns who find that for me.) It was from an overall intelligent-sounding, highly self-analytic female of the species who feared her sarcasm or lack of emotional neediness turned dudes off.
Architect and I had a rousing discussion of this very non-problem a while back. We talked about how this really is an economic problem, that if you're pouring money into dates with incompatible people week after week, you're not maximizing your utility. My theory that a date with more than one new person a month is a waste of time and money.
I know what I want and am very decisive, and also very assertive when it comes to pursuing men. It seemed that Architect agreed: if he wanted to be dating someone, he did. If he didn't, he was happy single.
I know that with our devastating good looks and brilliant wit we may not understand the trials of the rab- . . . oh, please. We are probably near the median in looks and epic nerds to boot.
Maybe we should become dating coaches alla RyGos in Crazy, Stupid, Love, using the power of economics. My diagnosis: the woman doesn't prioritize relationships, so they haven't happened. Once the expected benefits of touching Mr. Periodical's elbow outweigh the expected drawbacks, she will see this as the non-problem it is.
#every one ever
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And for those curious, I have cast Alyson Hannigan as myself, Peter Sellers as Architect, and Rich Sommer as Architect's Brother in our upcoming Double Indemnity-esque film about the dark underbelly of corporate America.