68980 - another gay thread
Posted: Wed Oct 03, 2012 10:15 pm
http://theboard.byu.edu/questions/68980/
1. No, you aren't just lacking enough faith to get married. If you know you can't sustain a heterosexual relationship, please don't get married, and please let go of that guilt.
2. Look up BYU USGA post haste. Make friends there. Also, for the love, look up anything by Carol Lynn Pearson. Books, interviews (Mormon Stories), whatever. Email the lady. Send her the same question, even. She'll write you back and she's amazing.
3. Once you're feeling ready, please come out, not just to those you are closest to but everybody. I understand how terrifying that is, but that's the best way to make that process easier for those who are coming after us. And, as RP said, I don't think you need to clarify for everyone else's comfort whether or not you plan to date men if you don't want to.
4. My brother, please stop calling yourself a fag in your head. What a shame-producing word when used in that way. You have nothing to be ashamed of, and you don't deserve that kind of hate speech, especially from yourself.
5. You can email me, too, should you need support. I've come out! It's scary! I was just barely out of BYU at the time! And I put the Friendly in Friendly Neighborhood Agnostic, pinky promise.
1. No, you aren't just lacking enough faith to get married. If you know you can't sustain a heterosexual relationship, please don't get married, and please let go of that guilt.
2. Look up BYU USGA post haste. Make friends there. Also, for the love, look up anything by Carol Lynn Pearson. Books, interviews (Mormon Stories), whatever. Email the lady. Send her the same question, even. She'll write you back and she's amazing.
3. Once you're feeling ready, please come out, not just to those you are closest to but everybody. I understand how terrifying that is, but that's the best way to make that process easier for those who are coming after us. And, as RP said, I don't think you need to clarify for everyone else's comfort whether or not you plan to date men if you don't want to.
4. My brother, please stop calling yourself a fag in your head. What a shame-producing word when used in that way. You have nothing to be ashamed of, and you don't deserve that kind of hate speech, especially from yourself.
5. You can email me, too, should you need support. I've come out! It's scary! I was just barely out of BYU at the time! And I put the Friendly in Friendly Neighborhood Agnostic, pinky promise.