everybody's changing & i still feel the same

[Portia]

http://theboard.byu.edu/questions/70912/

Good answers. I thought of three case studies from my own life.

CASE I

The classic - my ex and his wife. When he started dating her (while still technically dating me), she was very thin. Thin enough to ask about her wedding dress size on the board, and it was, like, junior's. (People, you could not pay me to be 20 again.) The guy was runner-skinny, always has been, still is. She had a rough time with both her weight gain and post-partum depression. (She steals my boyfriend, I stalk her blog: fair is fair.) No indication that he loves her less. I should hope so considering he broke my heart to get with her! Haha. Ha.

CASE II

The swap - my best friend and her husband. She is very tall and more broad-shouldered, not really petite, but very beautiful. She has taken up running and looks about the same as she did before her baby, I'd say. Her husband, on the other hand, who started out big, has ballooned up to very huge proportions. She still loves him and finds him attractive although I don't see it. (But I am shorter and smaller to begin with, and have always gone for skinny guys.)

CASE III

The two-fer - my first boyfriend (I was the heartbreaker in this one) and his wife were both average when they got married, and both put on weight. No kids. Both like each other.

So I feel like knowing you could have a disposition to put on weight could mean that you'd want to consult your doctor about a good nutrition or fitness plan in general, but I don't think it's either one-sided or entirely predictable. I'm "conventionally attractive" but I'm not married. And if a guy judged me by my genes he'd conclude that I would croak in twenty years.

[Whistler]

great now I have that Keane song stuck in my head...

but yeah, um, people's appearances change? Is this the end of the world?