"How are you doing?"
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"How are you doing?"
I never really know how to respond when people ask me "how are you doing?" and mean it. Obviously with strangers or acquaintances they're just going for "good" and I don't have an issue with that, but when my friends really want to know how I'm doing, I'm getting really tired of trying to come up with a good response, since it's usually something along the same lines as "About as crappy as the last time you asked. Again." Anyone else have this problem? Ideas?
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In those situations, I ask if people want a short answer or a longer answer they'll want to ask questions about. Sometimes I clarify, "do you want to know what's going on in my life physically or emotionally?"
In most cases (mostly my mom) people are satisfied with a more detailed physical answer (I'm going to classes, talk about projects I'm working on in school and work, things like that).
In most cases (mostly my mom) people are satisfied with a more detailed physical answer (I'm going to classes, talk about projects I'm working on in school and work, things like that).
Re: "How are you doing?"
"I'm alive."
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If I'm having a bad day I usually try to dodge the question, or better yet, avoid talking to anyone. >_> Maybe it's my natural instinct of social withdrawl kicking in when I don't feel good (supposedly if you are contagious sick it can be a helpful instinct for everyone?).
Or an honest answer of "I made it to [class/church/this afternoon] today."
I think it's more productive to ask more specific questions like "how are you sleeping?" or "Are you managing the stress of [school/work/parenting]?" but those are both kind of patronizing questions that someone closer to you might ask.
Or an honest answer of "I made it to [class/church/this afternoon] today."
I think it's more productive to ask more specific questions like "how are you sleeping?" or "Are you managing the stress of [school/work/parenting]?" but those are both kind of patronizing questions that someone closer to you might ask.
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Re: "How are you doing?"
I have that problem. I just sum up, even if it becomes as much as a stock phrase as "fine" might be for a while. "Things are rough," is my go-to right now.